Comments on: Jamie, Dawg, Nancy and You http://redpillparents.com/?p=530 conscious parenting starts with conscious living Fri, 11 Jan 2013 17:54:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Red Pill Mama http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-216 Red Pill Mama Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:19:51 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-216 Three "love"s? Aw, shucks. ;-) Funny you should mention family because I just had a jaw-dropping conversation with a friend whose in-laws aggressively undermine the fantastic habits she's already set for her 4-year-old son. They take it as an offense that she doesn't want them feeding him Oreos, even when he gets tummy aches from them! There is so much wrapped up in food, family, love, parents/grandparents, tradition, etc., isn't there? I'm blessed with an "enlightened" Grandma for my kids -- I can't imagine going through what my friend is going through -- and I wish you continued luck with making the great changes that you have already put in place! Three “love”s? Aw, shucks. ;-) Funny you should mention family because I just had a jaw-dropping conversation with a friend whose in-laws aggressively undermine the fantastic habits she’s already set for her 4-year-old son. They take it as an offense that she doesn’t want them feeding him Oreos, even when he gets tummy aches from them! There is so much wrapped up in food, family, love, parents/grandparents, tradition, etc., isn’t there? I’m blessed with an “enlightened” Grandma for my kids — I can’t imagine going through what my friend is going through — and I wish you continued luck with making the great changes that you have already put in place!

]]> By: Red Pill Mama http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-215 Red Pill Mama Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:16:08 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-215 Hey MM -- yes, I agree that what most people want is a bill, or the continuation of the system, that allows them to continue to make poor decisions with no personal repercussions -- or guilt! And I'm praying along with you that Jamie's impact does indeed go beyond well-crafted television. I'm a couple episodes behind, but I can't wait to see. Did you hear that he won a TED award? $100,000 to put some really great awareness programs in place. Rock on, Jamie. Hey MM — yes, I agree that what most people want is a bill, or the continuation of the system, that allows them to continue to make poor decisions with no personal repercussions — or guilt! And I’m praying along with you that Jamie’s impact does indeed go beyond well-crafted television. I’m a couple episodes behind, but I can’t wait to see. Did you hear that he won a TED award? $100,000 to put some really great awareness programs in place. Rock on, Jamie.

]]> By: Red Pill Mama http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-214 Red Pill Mama Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:13:41 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-214 Well Hello "A Grandma"! So happy to have you join the discussion! Thank you for your fantastic comment, which leaves me thinking of a phrase I heard from one of our readers: "the burden of awareness." It can indeed be a burden, and ignorance can indeed be bliss. Our hope is that RPP will help parents see that there are others out there who are also not making the easy choices, but instead fighting to make the right ones. My own mom taught me that. ;-) Well Hello “A Grandma”! So happy to have you join the discussion! Thank you for your fantastic comment, which leaves me thinking of a phrase I heard from one of our readers: “the burden of awareness.” It can indeed be a burden, and ignorance can indeed be bliss. Our hope is that RPP will help parents see that there are others out there who are also not making the easy choices, but instead fighting to make the right ones. My own mom taught me that. ;-)

]]> By: A Grandma http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-192 A Grandma Wed, 07 Apr 2010 16:44:33 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-192 One branch of the "right tree" is to recognize that MOST of what we do (and perhaps even 'think' ) is following the lessons that we learned watching our parents, caretakers and relatives in the households or situations in which we were raised. Isn't this where we learned how to interpret the world, how it functions and how we are supposed to act? Just think about how you get sucked back into the old patterns when you go home for a family gathering and how disturbing that can be. Advertising is just one way of continuing the Parent role in keeping up the instructions, even throwing in the same techniques of fear and guilt as prods. It takes a great deal of "true grit "for any individual to step back and ask "What am I doing" and" Why am I doing this?" Once that question is asked there is a serious problem. Now that you know, you can't un-know. and therein lies the dilemma. What am I going to do now? The hard answer is to deal with what one has to give up in order to follow the new truth and act anyway. The easy answer is use denial and retreat to the proverbial state of "ignorance is bliss", even though you cannot really do that once the question has been asked. In our society the path of denial offers a kind of freedom and a large community out there willing to support that denial. Children today, just as you did when you were a child, absorb every little detail of what they see their own parents doing. They are watching you (not necessarily hearing you) to find out what is important and right and what actions to follow. Pay attention to what you do! One branch of the “right tree” is to recognize that MOST of what we
do (and perhaps even ‘think’ ) is following the lessons that we learned watching our parents, caretakers and relatives in the households or situations in which we were raised. Isn’t this where we learned how to interpret the world, how it functions and how we are supposed to act? Just think about how you get sucked back into the old patterns when you go home for a family gathering and how disturbing that can be. Advertising is just one way of continuing the Parent role in keeping up the instructions, even throwing in the same techniques of fear and guilt as prods.

It takes a great deal of “true grit “for any individual to step back and ask “What am I doing” and” Why am I doing this?” Once that question is asked there is a serious problem. Now that you know, you can’t un-know. and therein lies the dilemma. What am I going to do now? The hard answer is to deal with what one has to give up in order to follow the new truth and act anyway. The easy answer is use denial and retreat to the proverbial state of “ignorance is bliss”, even though you cannot really do that once the question has been asked. In our society the path of denial offers a kind of freedom and a large community out there willing to support that denial.

Children today, just as you did when you were a child, absorb every little detail of what they see their own parents doing. They are watching you (not necessarily hearing you) to find out what is important and right and what actions to follow. Pay attention to what you do!

]]> By: Midwest Mama http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-187 Midwest Mama Tue, 06 Apr 2010 11:47:00 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-187 I can only pray that Jamie Oliver is making as much real impact as he is making press. Health policy is incredibly complex and we wouldn't need much of it if people would wake up to the importance of what they put in their bodies. I think most people want a health care bill that allows them to continue their indulgent, self-destructive habits-not one that raises the bar. I'm also reminding myself that his show is just that, well crafted television. Has anyone heard what the result is? Is the school still using his meal plan and to what [early] success? As with anything, change takes time; I hope they stick to it. I can only pray that Jamie Oliver is making as much real impact as he is making press. Health policy is incredibly complex and we wouldn’t need much of it if people would wake up to the importance of what they put in their bodies. I think most people want a health care bill that allows them to continue their indulgent, self-destructive habits-not one that raises the bar. I’m also reminding myself that his show is just that, well crafted television. Has anyone heard what the result is? Is the school still using his meal plan and to what [early] success? As with anything, change takes time; I hope they stick to it.

]]> By: Suzanne/Clothworks http://redpillparents.com/?p=530&cpage=1#comment-183 Suzanne/Clothworks Tue, 06 Apr 2010 02:12:55 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=530#comment-183 Love, love, love this article. So many issues. There is also an aspect on turning away from family. I don't mean in the literal sense but you learned your ways from someone and they are usually comfortable habits that you formed. Comfortable for you and your relationships with others. They expect you to act a certain way, eat certain food-a certain way etc. We have switch to an almost entirely fresh food house. We still have hotdogs as a treat and I don't make all the bread and condiments but we don't order take-out and we don't purchase convenience dinners at the supermarket. Ditched our microwave about a year and a half ago. Most of my family did as well, but the in-law families are baffled and really don't get it. But I don't expect them to. I don't preach to them, but if they ask I tell them. But we are changing our house, our habits and our health one thing at a time. Suzanne Love, love, love this article. So many issues.

There is also an aspect on turning away from family. I don’t mean in the literal sense but you learned your ways from someone and they are usually comfortable habits that you formed. Comfortable for you and your relationships with others. They expect you to act a certain way, eat certain food-a certain way etc.

We have switch to an almost entirely fresh food house. We still have hotdogs as a treat and I don’t make all the bread and condiments but we don’t order take-out and we don’t purchase convenience dinners at the supermarket.

Ditched our microwave about a year and a half ago. Most of my family did as well, but the in-law families are baffled and really don’t get it. But I don’t expect them to. I don’t preach to them, but if they ask I tell them.

But we are changing our house, our habits and our health one thing at a time.

Suzanne

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