Comments on: I’ll Admit It: I Yell At My Kids http://redpillparents.com/?p=261 conscious parenting starts with conscious living Fri, 11 Jan 2013 17:54:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Louisa http://redpillparents.com/?p=261&cpage=1#comment-58 Louisa Sun, 07 Feb 2010 15:44:58 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=261#comment-58 I have to say from experience - I have one sugar sensitive child of 7 years old - that when she stays away from ALL sugar products, which means unrefined carbs too, she is like another person entirely, sweet, affectionate, kind and loving, whereas the sugar makes her well, uncontrollable to the point of hatred and harm, which in turn makes me yell. I have relatives staying in our house right now and the pressure is unbearable, they have filled the house with white bread, jams and biscuits, and it is very hard not to seem like a 'spoil-sport' so I let my daughter have them, even though I know what will happen to her, I know that she will be uncontrollable at some point later in the day, and yes, sure enough, half an hour ago she was ranting and raving and throwing a tantrum about a minor thing between her and her cousin. It is always the line that you draw between seeming mean by not letting your kids have certain things and knowing that you are harming them by giving it to them and always in the worst 'social' situations where you give in......it is the same with the TV and computer games. Making the connection between sugar and mood is SO important! I know that there are thousands of parents that feel unable to cope, unable to DO anything about it - because they don't know what it is that is causing this behaviour. It is sugar. And I have to say, I, myself have taken 2 months to get sugar free, and my moods are still like a roller coaster ride, although generally I can cope a little better when the 'situation' arises. This stuff is such a drug and so destructive. All I want is a smiling, happy family, which, when I can control the sugar intake of ALL of us, it is! Lou x I have to say from experience – I have one sugar sensitive child of 7 years old – that when she stays away from ALL sugar products, which means unrefined carbs too, she is like another person entirely, sweet, affectionate, kind and loving, whereas the sugar makes her well, uncontrollable to the point of hatred and harm, which in turn makes me yell.

I have relatives staying in our house right now and the pressure is unbearable, they have filled the house with white bread, jams and biscuits, and it is very hard not to seem like a ‘spoil-sport’ so I let my daughter have them, even though I know what will happen to her, I know that she will be uncontrollable at some point later in the day, and yes, sure enough, half an hour ago she was ranting and raving and throwing a tantrum about a minor thing between her and her cousin.

It is always the line that you draw between seeming mean by not letting your kids have certain things and knowing that you are harming them by giving it to them and always in the worst ‘social’ situations where you give in……it is the same with the TV and computer games.

Making the connection between sugar and mood is SO important! I know that there are thousands of parents that feel unable to cope, unable to DO anything about it – because they don’t know what it is that is causing this behaviour.

It is sugar.

And I have to say, I, myself have taken 2 months to get sugar free, and my moods are still like a roller coaster ride, although generally I can cope a little better when the ‘situation’ arises. This stuff is such a drug and so destructive. All I want is a smiling, happy family, which, when I can control the sugar intake of ALL of us, it is!

Lou x

]]> By: Red Pill Mama http://redpillparents.com/?p=261&cpage=1#comment-56 Red Pill Mama Sun, 07 Feb 2010 03:42:01 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=261#comment-56 Louisa, you are definitely on to something there, reinforcing the food/mood connection that keeps popping up for me lately. A friend has been reading "Potatoes Not Prozac" -- and I myself have made a recent major dietary change that, combined with more exercise than I've ever had since high school, has drastically altered my overall mood. Despite writing this post, there's been a lot less yelling and overall anger since I made this change. It's extraordinary. Combine this with the latest cover story in Newsweek -- that anti-depressants don't work -- and our assumptions about mood are really getting shaken up! I love your food diary idea: I may have to give that a try ... Louisa, you are definitely on to something there, reinforcing the food/mood connection that keeps popping up for me lately. A friend has been reading “Potatoes Not Prozac” — and I myself have made a recent major dietary change that, combined with more exercise than I’ve ever had since high school, has drastically altered my overall mood. Despite writing this post, there’s been a lot less yelling and overall anger since I made this change. It’s extraordinary. Combine this with the latest cover story in Newsweek — that anti-depressants don’t work — and our assumptions about mood are really getting shaken up! I love your food diary idea: I may have to give that a try …

]]> By: Louisa http://redpillparents.com/?p=261&cpage=1#comment-44 Louisa Thu, 28 Jan 2010 13:32:06 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=261#comment-44 I could also have written this - I found the most amazing difference came about when I cut out sugar from their and my diet, really, it is astounding what a difference this chemical can make to 'heat of the moment' situations. i.e. when we are franticly trying to get the kids somewhere, I think I have even written a few posts myself on this issue!! Nothing else I tried worked, apart from giving up school completely and homeschooling the girls because I could not stand those 'mornings'. It may help if you write a food/mood diary like I have been doing - the connections between sugar and mood are really obvious after a week of close scrutiny. Mornings before school are often worst when there has been a heavy consumption of carbohydrates and little protein the night before. It does not even take the white stuff to trigger one of these situations! But the times you mention, after parties, running around all day with no food, etc are the danger times. Children should have a meal with some kind of protein every three hours - I found that whilst I was cutting sugar out of my diet, I needed to eat far sooner than that! It can be REALLY hard, really, really hard - but diet plays a huge role, it is nothing really to do with the parent or the child's behaviour...... Lou x I could also have written this – I found the most amazing difference came about when I cut out sugar from their and my diet, really, it is astounding what a difference this chemical can make to ‘heat of the moment’ situations. i.e. when we are franticly trying to get the kids somewhere, I think I have even written a few posts myself on this issue!!

Nothing else I tried worked, apart from giving up school completely and homeschooling the girls because I could not stand those ‘mornings’.

It may help if you write a food/mood diary like I have been doing – the connections between sugar and mood are really obvious after a week of close scrutiny. Mornings before school are often worst when there has been a heavy consumption of carbohydrates and little protein the night before. It does not even take the white stuff to trigger one of these situations! But the times you mention, after parties, running around all day with no food, etc are the danger times. Children should have a meal with some kind of protein every three hours – I found that whilst I was cutting sugar out of my diet, I needed to eat far sooner than that!

It can be REALLY hard, really, really hard – but diet plays a huge role, it is nothing really to do with the parent or the child’s behaviour……

Lou x

]]> By: Anastasia http://redpillparents.com/?p=261&cpage=1#comment-42 Anastasia Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:24:49 +0000 http://redpillparents.com/?p=261#comment-42 I could have written this myself, except in my case, my son actually imitates me later (he yells at his clothes, his toys, etc). Thank you for giving voice to us yellers. I have found that being in a rush sends everyone into a frenzy--I am still working on allowing enough time to get us all ready, out the door, and allow for unforseen circumstances (exploding diapers, last minute potty trips). It's a work in progress for us all. I am big into apologizing and admitting my mistakes, even when my temper hasn't been directed towards my kids. I think it works. I could have written this myself, except in my case, my son actually imitates me later (he yells at his clothes, his toys, etc). Thank you for giving voice to us yellers.

I have found that being in a rush sends everyone into a frenzy–I am still working on allowing enough time to get us all ready, out the door, and allow for unforseen circumstances (exploding diapers, last minute potty trips). It’s a work in progress for us all.

I am big into apologizing and admitting my mistakes, even when my temper hasn’t been directed towards my kids. I think it works.

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